21 Rules for Good Aging

21 Rules for Good Aging

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Common sense is a flower that doesn’t grow in everyone’s
garden.

1. It’s time to use the money you
saved up. Use it and enjoy it.
 Don’t just keep it for those
who may have no notion of the sacrifices you made to get it. Remember there is
nothing more dangerous than a son or daughter-in-law with big ideas for your
hard earned capital. Warning: This is also a bad time for an investment, even
if it seems wonderful or fool-proof. They only bring problems and worries. This
is a time for you to enjoy some peace and quiet.

 

2. Stop worrying about the
financial situation of your children and grandchildren,
 and
don’t feel bad spending your money on yourself. You’ve taken care of them for
many years, and you’ve taught them what you could. You gave them an education,
food, shelter and support. The responsibility is now theirs to earn their own
money.

 

3. Keep a healthy life, without
great physical effort.
 Do moderate exercise (like walking every
day), eat well and get your sleep. It’s easy to become sick, and it gets harder
to remain healthy. That is why you need to keep yourself in good shape and be
aware of your medical and physical needs. Keep in touch with your doctor, do
tests even when you’re feeling well. Stay informed.

 

4. Always
buy the best, most beautiful items for your significant other.
 The
key goal is to enjoy your money with your partner. One day one of you will miss
the other, and the money will not provide any comfort then, enjoy it together.

 

5. Don’t stress over the little
things.
 You’ve already overcome so much in your life. You have good
memories and bad ones, but the important thing is the present. Don’t let the
past drag you down and don’t let the future frighten you. Feel good in the now.
Small issues will soon be forgotten.

 

6.
Regardless of age, always keep love alive.
 Love your partner,
love life, love your family, love your neighbor and remember: “A man is not old
as long as he has intelligence and affection.”

 

7. Be
proud, both inside and out.
 Don’t stop going to your hair salon or
barber, do your nails, go to the dermatologist and the dentist, keep your
perfumes and creams well stocked. When you are well-maintained on the outside,
it seeps in, making you feel proud and strong.

 

8. Don’t lose sight of fashion
trends for your age, but keep your own sense of style.
 There’s
nothing worse than an older person trying to wear the current fashion among
youngsters. You’ve developed your own sense of what looks good on you – keep it
and be proud of it. It’s part of who you are.

 

9. ALWAYS stay up-to-date. Read
newspapers, watch the news. Go online and read what people are saying. Make
sure you have an active email account and try to use some of those social
networks. You’ll be surprised what old friends you’ll meet. Keeping in touch
with what is going on and with the people you know is important at any age.

 

10. Respect
the younger generation and their opinions.
 They may not have the
same ideals as you, but they are the future, and will take the world in their
direction. Give advice, not criticism, and try to remind them that yesterday’s
wisdom still applies today.

 

11. Never
use the phrase: “In my time”.
 Your time is now. As long as
you’re alive, you are part of this time. You may have been younger, but you are
still you now, having fun and enjoying life.

 

12. Some
people embrace their golden years, while others become bitter and surly.
 Life
is too short to waste your days on the latter. Spend your time with positive,
cheerful people. It’ll rub off on you and your days will seem that much better.
Spending your time with bitter people will make you older and harder to be
around.

 

13. Do not
surrender to the temptation of living with your children or grandchildren
 (if
you have a financial choice, that is). Sure, being surrounded by family sounds
great, but we all need our privacy. They need theirs and you need yours. If
you’ve lost your partner (our deepest condolences), then find a person to move
in with you and help out. Even then, do so only if you feel you really need the
help or do not want to live alone.

 

14. Don’t abandon your hobbies. If
you don’t have any, make new ones. You can travel, hike, cook, read, dance. You
can adopt a cat or a dog, grow a garden, play cards, checkers, chess, dominoes,
golf. You can paint, volunteer at an NGO or just collect certain items. Find
something you like and spend some real time having fun with it.

 

15. Even if
you don’t feel like it, try to accept invitations
. Baptisms,
graduations, birthdays, weddings, conferences. Try to go. Get out of the house,
meet people you haven’t seen in a while, experience something new (or something
old). But don’t get upset when you’re not invited. Some events are limited by
resources, and not everyone can be hosted. The important thing is to leave the
house from time to time. Go to museums, go walk through a field. Get out there.

 

16. Be a conversationalist. Talk
less and listen more.
 Some people go on and on about the past, not caring if their
listeners are really interested. That’s a great way of reducing their desire to
speak with you. Listen first and answer questions, but don’t go off into long
stories unless asked to. Speak in courteous tones and try not to complain or
criticize too much unless you really need to. Try to accept situations as they
are. Everyone is going through the same things, and people have a low tolerance
for hearing complaints. Always find some good things to say as well.

 

17. Pain
and discomfort go hand in hand with getting older.
 Try
not to dwell on them but accept them as a part of the cycle of life we’re all
going through. Try to minimize them in your mind. They are not who you are,
they are something that life added to you. If they become your entire focus,
you lose sight of the person you used to be.

 

18. If
you’ve been offended by someone – forgive them
. If you’ve
offended someone — apologize. Don’t drag around resentment with you. It only
serves to make you sad and bitter. It doesn’t matter who was right. Someone
once said: “Holding a grudge is like taking poison and expecting the other
person to die.
” Don’t take that poison. Forgive, forget and move on with
your life.

 

19. If you
have a strong belief, savor it.
 But don’t waste your time
trying to convince others. They will make their own choices no matter what you
tell them, and it will only bring you frustration. Live your faith and set an
example. Live true to your beliefs and let that memory sway them.

 

20. Laugh. Laugh A LOT. Laugh at
everything.
Remember, you are one of the lucky ones. You managed to have a
life, a long one. Many never get to this age, never get to experience a full
life. But you did. So what’s not to laugh about? Find the humor in your
situation.

 

21. Take no notice of what others
say about you and even less notice of what they might be thinking.
They’ll do
it anyway, and you should have pride in yourself and what you’ve achieved. Let
them talk and don’t worry. They have no idea about your history, your memories
and the life you’ve lived so far. There’s still much to be written, so get busy
writing and don’t waste time thinking about what others might think. Now is the
time to be at rest, at peace and as happy as you can be!

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.

Rod Stone
Author,
Publisher and Supplier of Healthy Living information and products to improve
your life.