But what if striving to be perfect is not the right
goal? What if beating yourself up and scheduling and improving isn’t where you
should be? Because becoming ‘your best you’ isn’t about being perfect (and is,
in fact, a shortcut to disappointment at best and a breakdown at worst). Perfection is an illusion, and making it your
life’s aim is a damaging mistake. The bottom line is–you will never be perfect.
Imperfection is not only inevitable, but it’s also okay. And it’s the thing
that keeps us moving forward.
Perfection is a mirage, and if it’s your goal, you are
very likely to fall into the trap of carping on yourself when you don’t achieve
it. You will have a skewed view of yourself by having the wrong expectations.
The more you try, and fail, the worse your self-esteem will become. That is not
a recipe for a happy life.
kind to yourself – if you’re constantly striving for perfection
and criticizing yourself for not meeting those impossibly high standards,
you’re setting yourself up for a miserable life because you can’t achieve the
impossible goal of perfection.
a look around you – despite what you see on television and social
media, no one is perfect. Ever. At no point in human history has anyone been
perfect. People just do their best, most of the time.
your imperfection – it’s part of what makes you human and not a
robot (and remember even robots can malfunction!) Imperfection makes you quirky
and interesting and brave and admirable. What’s to admire in someone who gets a
perfect score first time, compared to someone who worked hard, made mistakes,
learned from them and got there in the end? Or didn’t, but gave it their best
Trying to be perfect is choosing to suffer when you
don’t need to. Trying to be your best self is a very different proposition.
That’s likely to lead you down all sorts of interesting and fulfilling paths if you’re prepared to make mistakes along