fear of failure behind you:
1. Understand that failure is part of
the process. You’re very lucky if you figure out the right way
to do something with your first effort. Short-term failure is much more common.
Anytime you want to accomplish
something significant, you can expect failures to be part of the process.
Keep improving your process until you’re successful.
2. Realize that failure is only a
temporary condition. A single failure isn’t a permanent condition.
Failure is like a rainy day. Sunny days always show up again.
3. Find something meaningful. With
enough motivation, fear isn’t an issue. For example, if you’re feeling overly
bashful at work, maybe you aren’t working in the right field or with the right
company for you. When you have enough passion for something, fear is much
easier to overcome.
4. Failure isn’t personal. Failing
only means that your approach wasn’t the best option. It doesn’t say anything
about you as a person. Even the most
talented people deal with failure on a regular basis. A wrong choice
isn’t indicative of a fatal flaw.
5. Stay present. You
can’t worry if your mind isn’t living in the future. It’s only when you project
a negative outcome that you become anxious. Reality is happening right now. The
future is only a daydream. If you’re
going to think about the future, imagine success. At this very second,
you’re okay. You’ll be okay in the next second, too.
6. Learn to enjoy fear. If your
life isn’t in danger, being afraid is a sign that you’re doing something new.
Only new behaviors will change your life. No one wants to live the same day
repeatedly. That uncomfortable feeling is a sign that something amazing might
7. Minimize fear by taking action. The
people that are most afraid tend to be the most paralyzed, but they didn’t
start out that way. You weren’t born afraid of the things that you fear today.
But by giving in to fear, you teach your brain that fear is an effective way to
control your behavior. It will continue ratcheting up the fear because it knows
Ignoring fear and taking action has the opposite
effect. You can teach yourself that fear
doesn’t impact your behavior. In time, the amount of fear you feel will
8. Look ahead. If you
continue to allow fear to dictate your behavior, what will your life look like
in 20 years? How would your life be different if fear didn’t control your
actions? Would you rather be a little
uncomfortable now or be filled with regret for the rest of your life?
9. View failure as an opportunity to
learn. Failure might provide a small sting, but the information you gain is
invaluable. A few, small improvements are often enough to turn a failure into a
success. Look for the lesson and apply it to your next attempt.
Has the fear of failure had a negative impact on your life? Dealing with
the fear of failure is something everyone faces. Avoid allowing fear to dictate
and limit your life. Remember that the fear is self-created. You can choose to
have an attitude that supports your success.