First one free habit: keep looking for advice on improving
yourself, but don’t feel like you need to accept all of it. Becoming a better
you doesn’t mean becoming someone else.
Compare Yourself to Others
An article by the Harvard Business Review says that one of
the biggest stumbling blocks that we can trip on the road to self-improvement
is gauging ourselves based on other people. It’s okay to have people who
inspire you, but like we said in the introduction, becoming a better you means
becoming more advanced as a person, not becoming a different person. If you
base your progress on someone else, you’ll either never achieve your goals or
achieving your goals will mean going against your true nature.
2. Read a Lot
Most resources on self-development recommend reading. Most of
them talk about instruction manuals or self-help books. If that’s your kind of
literature than that’s great, but you should also know that there are other
Non-fiction books teach us about the world and help us to
dive deeper into the body of knowledge behind our own interests. They can also
help us to make decisions in our own lives based on the experiences of those
who have gone before us.
On the other hand, studies have shown that fiction books help
us to develop our sense of empathy. Empathy, or the ability to relate to the
experiences of other people, should be in the toolbox of anyone who hopes to be
a better person because it helps us to relate better to others and to make more
Becoming intimately interested in the experiences of another
person, even if that person is fictional, can be good practice for developing
our emotional skills for when we meet other people in the real world.
3. Don’t Try to
Live in a Vacuum
An article be Inc. recommends finding other people to help us
along the road to self-betterment. This may seem like awkward advice. After
all, our first two tips were about not relying on others. If you think about
it, however, this kind of makes sense too.
You don’t want to become a better you by trying to become
someone else, but what’s the point of becoming a better you if you try to exist
in isolation? Develop your new life skills by socializing with others, whether
it’s friends or family or members of religious and social organizations.
4. Don’t Just
Start New Habits, Quit Old Ones
In an article on good habits for self-development,
Lifehack.org reminds us that it is just as important to quit bad habits.
Picking up new tools to use in your everyday life is great, but sometimes that
toolbox is cluttered with broken tools or other junk that we shouldn’t be
carrying around with us anymore.
Often these are habits that we picked up in our youth, maybe
to cope with problems that we used to have but don’t encounter anymore. If we
keep old habits like this around for too long, they can start to create more
problems than they solve.
5. Don’t Limit
The Harvard Business Review also reminds us that we should
become better people by becoming well-rounded people. We won’t become great
people by developing our skills in one particular area, the world is too
complicated for that. So instead of diving head strong into one thing, try to
make little changes throughout your day in a variety of different ways.