though in the early stages of reinvention, we think about what benefits we
might receive from building a new self. At
first, perhaps we just want to be free of a stale, confining and suffocating
way of life, but that might not seem enough to us right then.
than liberating yourself from a life with no change and no growth, what other benefits
does reinvention offer?
You learn to face fear—and survive! Fear is the first roadblock to
personal change. It’s not that easy to change one’s self and life without
giving up something you’ve already got. For example, leaving a job that you’re well-established in for a new
career is terrifying. The evil little phrase “What if? What if?” becomes a
constant companion in the early days. As you continue on in the process, you
learn to still those fears. You learn how to go forward even if your plan is in
Happiness goes up, frustration
goes down. Reinvention brings us closer to who
we want to be or what we want to do, usually both. Living closer to our
authentic selves gets rid of all the
frustration caused by dissonance. Life becomes a happier place.
Increased stress tolerance. Deliberately reinventing ourselves
brings some stress, there’s no way around it. However, as we use new tools to
help us on our way, we learn to diffuse and dissipate.
Clarity. You gain a clear understanding of what you want in life,
from yourself and others. You also get a lot of practice with honesty. After
all, you have to be honest with yourself about things you want to keep going
forward—and what you want to jettison. Sometimes this involves relationships.
It’s easy to get stuck in friendships with negative energy-draining people who
will deride your changes. If people put down your need to become a better,
truer you, evaluate your relationship with a clear eye and consider if they’re
worth bringing to the new you.
You get a bigger toolbox of coping and thriving skills.
Reinvention is all about changing for the better. Getting there takes a lot of
new skills. You’ll boost your coping techniques and your tolerance for
You learn how to reinvent yourself. This benefit might seem
obvious, but once going through the process of self-transformation for the
first time, all future transformations become less scary. With fear removed,
it’s easier to explore new options in life.
course, a huge benefit is a more authentic life that’s fulfilling to live.
After all, that’s the first purpose of going through the transformative process.
Perhaps more importantly, you learn how to be adaptable in the face of new
challenges and that is a life skill that is useful in many ways.
learn how to cope with new problems and new situations. Once you’ve been through one reinvention cycle,
you’ll be ready to do it again when you feel the need.
may never decide to reinvent yourself again, but that’s a matter of choice.
You’ll know how to do it . That’s a life-changing benefit all on its own!