You May Be Picking Up Toxic Beliefs That Doom Your Efforts

You May Be Picking Up Toxic Beliefs That Doom Your Efforts

We choose our own beliefs

Make no mistake. We choose our own beliefs. There’s nobody sitting behind you with a gun pointed to your head telling you to believe certain things. There’s nobody threatening to kill you if you don’t believe you are worthless, incapable, and not up to the job.

Nobody’s forcing you to be miserable. I know that that’s an uncomfortable thing to hear because we’re human beings. We’re trapped in a prison of weak flesh and we would love to have somebody or a situation to blame.

You choose your beliefs and these are the foundation of your reality. They are the lenses which you used to filter out reality. That’s what you used to read reality. They’re not forced on you. You’ve voluntarily assumed them. You always have a say.

How
to Fight Back?

How
do you fight back against your toxic beliefs? It all boils down to being more
critical. This doesn’t mean that you have to turn into some jerk or asshole but
it means that you have to be more skeptical.

Don’t
think things have face value. Somebody might say something is right or true but
filter that information through your experience. Use your logical reasoning
facilities.

Unfortunately,
many people are lazy because if somebody we know who we love and respect says
something or make a truth claim, we are more likely to pick up on what they say
and assume that it’s true.

Why?
In the back of our heads, we filtered that person as someone who experienced
many things and as someone who has achieved credibility and authority in our
mind so why do the heavy work and be skeptical of what they say?

Basically,
you transfer the time, effort, and attention to detail that you invested in
developing that friend or mentor to their claims. This is a problem because
people make mistakes all the time.

People
say the stupidest things all the time and if you were mentally lazy and adopt
what they say wholesale and absorb it, there will be a problem. Maybe they’re
saying something that’s true to them personally, but it’s not some universal
truth that applies to all people across the board.

The
next thing you need to do is to stop assuming. Don’t be afraid to look at first
principles. If somebody is saying a big claim, don’t be afraid to look like a
fool and say, “Hold on, what do you mean by this and by that?”

When
you do that you stop people in their tracks. You keep them from taking leaps of
faith in their argumentation. Mature, very balanced and advanced thinking
people would appreciate that because they understand clean logic. They
understand a clean progression of argumentation in their mind.

However,
people who are lazy or insecure would attack you and that’s okay. Be prepared
for that but never fear out of asking to look at first principles because you
will be the victim if you allow them to fool you because that’s what’s
happening.

Do
not assume. Don’t be afraid to look at the premises behind their conclusion
because there might not be a good logical fit. The bottom line to all of this
is that if you adopt the mindset of being more critical and refusing to assume
things. You always think you can choose your beliefs; you change your life.

You
really do. Why? You actively make your beliefs work for you instead of against
you. Please understand that beliefs are two-edged swords. Learn how to craft
them so they are beneficial to you and people depending on you.

 

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Rod Stone
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